There are a few things we would like you to know.
Your children being taken away from you was not their fault. They did not ask to be neglected. They had no choice in the matter.
You get to see your children once a week. Please, please enjoy your time with your children. No doubt, they look forward to visits all week. But, then when you are not engaged or choose to be grumpy with them, it makes them feel like crap. Do you know who is there to pick up the pieces when you treat them bad and break their hearts? We are, the foster family.
Your children want you! They do not care about the money we spend on them or the trips we take, or even where we go out to eat. They only want you. So, this isn’t a competition, you win. At least, we hope you win.
We are not your enemy. In fact, foster parents aren’t the enemy. We are here to love and keep your children safe until you can get it together and start making mature decisions that have positive impact on your children’s lives. We are not here to judge you, belittle you, or talk bad about you. In fact, we are here to cheer you on! We are here to build you up in your children’s eyes, but also have the hard conversations with them when you choose to make a bad choice. Even in that, we try and keep it positive. We want them to believe in you! Oh, it is hard some days, really it is. Because remember, we are the ones picking up the pieces and defending their little hearts. So fragile, so hurt, so confused. We don’t understand the choices you have made, but we also have never walked in your shoes and lived your life.
We need you to hear this. Your children are so incredibly precious that nothing should ever be placed over them. You should fight for them, sacrifice for them, and give all you’ve got to get them back! Until then, we promise to love them so deeply that it will hurt when they leave. We promise to keep them safe, secure and surrounded in love as they walk through this journey. We promise to protect them as if they were our own biological children, and honestly we treat them as if they are. We promise to be there to pick up all the pieces that were broken and put them back together as best we can, even if it is really hard sometimes.
No, neither of us could ever understand what it is like to have our children taken away from us, but we do know how to love, protect, defend, and sacrifice for your children like they are our very own.
We are rooting for you. We want you to succeed. Your children want you to succeed. Please make the right choices, cherish the moments you have with them, and understand that no matter what, you are their parent, and that makes you special to them and to us.
The Foster Parents