Most of us like to ‘fix’ things. Now, that doesn’t necessarily mean you want to fix things in the physical/structural sense. I, for one, have very limited skill when it comes to tools, carpentry, mechanical and/or work revolving around such. Likewise, I have very limited interest in ever really learning.
And yet, most of us would be hard pressed to disagree with the fact that we all have this built in desire to ‘fix’ something in us, in others, or in our world,
- our weight
- our appearance
- our attitude
- our life situation
- our job situation
- our spiritual walk
- our relationships
- local/national politics
- world issues
- And, on and on and on…..
So, is it any wonder that most of us inherently address fostering the same way? We want to ‘fix’ the child and in the process we forget that it is just a child, with a lot of brokenness inside them. Most of which, we have very limited capacity to touch, if we don’t first accept, love, receive, admire and affirm who they are ‘unfixed’.
As foster parents, we can get so busy in the ‘innocence of fixing’ that we forget we are just called to the journey. God enables the ‘fixing’ in His season, but more importantly, in His timing. (This can be really, really, really hard!)
The reminder to myself: Don’t miss the journey, because you are too caught up in the ‘fixing’. Model love, model boundaries, model appropriateness, model acceptance, model patience, model trust, model healthy relationships and one day, maybe, just maybe that kid you started out trying to ‘fix’ will be the best adult he or she can be.
Let the journey continue…….
I love that God’s sense of humor abounds in the midst of His Grace. If I just follow the journey and focus on the modeling, ‘fixing’ becomes less important and yet I am the one who ends up getting ‘fixed’…