It is about to get real! I mean really, really real. You see, I’m the kind of person who doesn’t like to worry, and if I can put it off until tomorrow I will. So, when people have said to me, “I could never foster, because it would hurt too much when the kids went home”, to be honest, I just didn’t think about it, because that ‘going home’ bit was a distant reality. It wasn’t something I cared to worry about at that moment. But, I can’t put it off any longer, that ‘day’ is just around the corner and if I’m blatantly honest, then I’d tell you I’m SCARED!!
I’m scared about a lot of things. Will our kids be tucked in every night? Will they get three meals and good snacks every day? Will they get lots of hugs? Will they be told how special they are? Will they get the care they deserve and need? Will they have someone there to help them with their homework or do a craft with them? Will someone be there to throw the football around with our little guy? Will someone give them the special character band aids when they fall down and scrape their knee? Will someone protect them from the things they have seen and experienced in their past? So many random fears are running through my mind right now. But, you know what? I’ve decided this isn’t so much about me being scared or my own fears, instead it is really about my ability to trust. Can I trust God with these children? Do I trust God enough that I believe He can keep these kiddos safe even when I am no longer in the picture? Even when I am no longer their mom??
I love that God has been able to use me, a simple mom, in His greater purpose. I love that He has been able to use our whole family (immediate and extended) to write a love story on these children’s hearts and vice versa He has used these kiddos to write a love story on our hearts! And, even though, this next month might bring A LOT of heartache, I can honestly say I’m glad God picked me to love these kiddos.
The day is fast approaching when I will not be able to put off the hurt and heartache of saying goodbye to these four amazing kiddos and I pray that when that time comes I will be able to put ALL my trust and faith in God. I pray I will be able to rejoice in seeing a family reunited and take heart that we were able to be a small part of this beautiful and messy redemption story. I pray that God will take my hurt, fear, and lack of trust and exchange it for His peace.
As my husband and I have said time and time again, it is not about us, but about God and these beautiful children and if I’m honest, I just need to trust Him with writing this final chapter, because it is about to get real….
Praying for you all! I vividly remember the lesson from HIM when after living with us for 9 months and us praying to be able to adopt, plans were being made to place our little man with a relative! It was a difficult and scary time. God showed us that this little boy was ours whether we got to finish raising him or not! And to as you have eloquently explained, trust that HE can take infinitely better care of our little guy than I can – which was a hard lesson for this take control mommy!